Am I manipulating my lover?

I wonder how actor's s/o feel when they are naked in the sack making out like their plane is going down. I wonder how their husbands/wives feel about that. Like if you were married to Bruce Willis and in this scene he is going to be fully naked in bed with Jennifer Lopez. And you can tell he's rubbing the pork sword against her coochie. It's just a job, its just a scene, it doesn't mean anything. Wonder how those people feel? Maybe it secretly turns them on. I guess they get used to it.